Motive Enemy

“In cultures where gender is rigidly bi-polar, rituals of gender crossing remind us of our continuous common humanity.” — Anne Bolin, anthropologist The moment I heard Anne say that at Southern Comfort 1993, I knew it was my personal mission statement. Democracy — and community — only works when we first respect what we share. … Continue reading Motive Enemy

Looks Like

“If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.” How many transpeople have bent themselves into pretzels trying to pass the duck test? Apparently, the test started over a French automaton, a mechanical mallard that appeared on the outside to be alive, but … Continue reading Looks Like

Seeing It

In “Code Warriors,” Stephen Budiansky notes that code breaking is a young people’s game. To break a code, which often requires years of painstaking, routine and dreary work, you first have to believe the code can be broken.   If you don’t have the belief, the hope that comes with it and the persistence driven by … Continue reading Seeing It


“Congratulations!” I told the cashier in the dollar store. “Why are you congratulating me?” she asked. “You just told me that you were doing pretty well,” I said.  “That’s a lot better than you could be doing!  Congratulations!” “I’ve never had anyone congratulate me for doing pretty well before,” she replied, “but yes, it is … Continue reading Celebrant