We are encouraged, in this culture, to create a movie in our mind. In that film, we see the course of life as imagination, all our hopes and dreams and wishes, all the expectations that come with us following the rules and growing up to be who we should be, the person who is the … Continue reading Shattered Film
You are at work, and your shoes hurt. You really want to slip them off, but you know that if you do that, when you need to get them back on for the meeting, it will be almost impossible. Your feet will have swelled and those heels you wore especially for the meeting will be … Continue reading New Shoes
Once, a long time ago, a friend felt caught between me and another person. They wished that we two could find common ground. “OK, I’ll make you a deal,” I said. “I’ll write a piece from their point of view, so they can know that I understand where I am coming from, so they can … Continue reading Other Shoes
Being in the moment, being present in a way that moves beyond expectations, assumptions and projections, is the key to finding the divine surprises which life can offer you. Engaging these surprises offers the miracle of shifting perceptions, seeing our shared world in a new way which can lead us to integrated and actualized choices … Continue reading Animating Force
There was a time that social services came with a catch. To get what you needed, you had to show that you could be saved by whatever doctrine the organization which provided the services held as sacred and true. To get a bowl of soup and a mat for the night, the prayer service was … Continue reading Flock That
Halloween is the high holiday for crossdressers. It isn’t a good day for all other transpeople, though. Back in the 1990s, I gave a blurb for the local trans groups Halloween party to the gay & lesbian council’s newsletter. “I fixed your piece,” the president told me. “You said the event was a kickoff to … Continue reading Scary Out
This post was getting picked up by those using search engines to find sexually explicit material. This was not a useful outcome, so I have replaced it with a the same text using an old trick spelling from the AOL days. Enjoy. One problem with pron, so they say, is that all of that highly … Continue reading Trans Pron
If you aren’t satisfied with how your life is unfolding, you only have one choice: choose again. Your choices are the only control you have over your life. You can’t demand that the world change to be more accommodating; if you need the world to change you have to choose to work towards changing it. … Continue reading Owning Your Choices
Everybody dreams of being instantly understood, of having people get the details and the emotion of what we tell them as fast as we can share it. That doesn’t happen. Communication, like everything else worth having, takes work. We have to build a set of shared symbols and metaphors, have to create a shared context … Continue reading Pitch Bitch
The internet access was terminated, leaving me even more off the grid. It felt like just another freeing loss. I may have spent a lot of time coming for inputs and offering my voice, but those two pieces were profoundly disconnected. My voice was offering diminishing returns and the crap I found was just more … Continue reading Goulash
One of the most important practices I had to master in finding my centre, my clarity, my integrity and my peace was diminishing desire. When we desire something intensely, we are often willing to go off balance to acquire it. We end up rationalizing, abandoning morals, manipulating others, breaking rules and generally violating the golden … Continue reading Diminishing Desire
I took a story. . . Transvestism is about changing your clothes. Transsexualism is about changing your body. Transgender is about changing your mind. Monica isn’t taking the route of reprogramming, of opening her heart to use the plasticity of her brain to overcome the compulsory gender training, that brainforming that everyone undergoes. She isn’t … Continue reading Boobs & Brains
The opposite of discipline is distractability. We live in a world where distractions are everywhere. Most of them are man-made, shiny objects and ideas specially designed to capture your attention for a moment in a quest to capture your cash. The world is one huge carnival midway, full of tempting distractions created to lure … Continue reading Opposite Discipline
Yes. It’s a curated compilation of all the brands ever mentioned by Miranda, Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and their friends. On one level this clip makes me very happy, because I see characters I enjoy enjoying the lush symbology of the market economy. They know that the choices they make define them, know that in … Continue reading Woman Shop
We live in a time where the expectation of personal customization runs rampant. Have it your way. Roll your own. Order à la carte. Install your own skin. Only take what you want. That idea can tend to lead people to expect that life is a pick and choose kind of experience, one where … Continue reading Whole Enchilada
I ended up choosing from two meetups yesterday afternoon. The Pagans were celebrating the March full moon at one Unitarian Church, while at the other, the Freethinkers were gathering to hear a presentation on a rational God. The local Freethinking Community has two goals. One is to promote freethinking, the ability engage deep questions rather … Continue reading Freethinking
My love is not corrupt, no matter what I have been taught. Fearing my love will be seen as corrupt keeps me from the power of love in my life. Love is a powerful force in peoples lives. When the dancers in “A Chorus Line” look back on what they did for love, they remember … Continue reading Not Corrupt
I have learned to live as a transcendent and brilliant guru in the world, combining my power of seeing with long experience in doing the right thing. I know how to be in the moment, analytical & gracious, modulated & appropriate. My heart, though, is my heart. In recent times, I have been using the … Continue reading Guru & The Girl
Amy Bloom, in Normal: Transsexual CEOs, Crossdressing Cops, and Hermaphrodites with Attitude, lays out her case against crossdressers. She finds them immersed in the erotic in a way that makes her queasy when they are about in open society. That Eros may be fine in private, but in the wider world, it seems a bit … Continue reading Sensation Or Success?
People love flow. It feels so good when we are carried along, with a purpose a focus. Andy Rooney still misses WWII; the shared goals made everyone feel closer. But flow has mostly given way to fragmentation and multitasking, to separation and serving the machine. Marketers and TV producers — basically the same thing — … Continue reading SimuFlow
