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There was a time that social services came with a catch. To get what you needed, you had to show that you could be saved by whatever doctrine the organization which provided the services held as sacred and true. To get a bowl of soup and a mat for the night, the prayer service was … Continue reading Flock That

“I have been looking at my own choices in a new way,” my sister’s friend, taking care of her 89 year old father said, “and letting go of some old defensive habits that don’t really serve me. “Still, I sometimes find myself sometimes getting caught up now and then, but I remember what you said. … Continue reading Still You

We are encouraged, in this culture, to create a movie in our mind. In that film, we see the course of life as imagination, all our hopes and dreams and wishes, all the expectations that come with us following the rules and growing up to be who we should be, the person who is the … Continue reading Shattered Film

This post was getting picked up by those using search engines to find sexually explicit material.  This was not a useful outcome, so I have replaced it with a the same text using an old trick spelling from the AOL days.  Enjoy. One problem with pron, so they say, is that all of that highly … Continue reading Trans Pron

One of the most important practices I had to master in finding my centre, my clarity, my integrity and my peace was diminishing desire. When we desire something intensely, we are often willing to go off balance to acquire it.  We end up rationalizing, abandoning morals, manipulating others, breaking rules and generally violating the golden … Continue reading Diminishing Desire

I took a story. . . Transvestism is about changing your clothes. Transsexualism is about changing your body. Transgender is about changing your mind. Monica isn’t taking the route of reprogramming, of opening her heart to use the plasticity of her brain to overcome the compulsory gender training, that brainforming that everyone undergoes. She isn’t … Continue reading Boobs & Brains

Everyone desires something more than what they have. It is how we handle that desire that does so very much to define the shape of our lives. When they take children who have little out Christmas shopping, they often have to strongly remind them to choose something for themselves.  These kids desire most to give … Continue reading System Desired

The opposite of discipline is distractability. We live in a world where distractions are everywhere.   Most of them are man-made, shiny objects and ideas specially designed to capture your attention for a moment in a quest to capture your cash.   The world is one huge carnival midway, full of tempting distractions created to lure … Continue reading Opposite Discipline

Yes.  It’s a curated compilation of all the brands ever mentioned by Miranda, Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and their friends. On one level this clip makes me very happy, because I see characters I enjoy enjoying the lush symbology of the market economy.   They know that the choices they make define them, know that in … Continue reading Woman Shop

From the earliest I can remember, I have had a calling in my heart, pulling me towards the feminine. From the earliest I can remember, other people have told me that the calling I have in my heart, pulling me towards the feminine, is sick, corrupt, perverse, disordered, rude, offensive, demonic, evil and just plain … Continue reading Listening Close

I ended up choosing from two meetups yesterday afternoon.  The Pagans were celebrating the March full moon at one Unitarian Church, while at the other, the Freethinkers were gathering to hear a presentation on a rational God. The local Freethinking Community has two goals.  One is to promote freethinking, the ability engage deep questions rather … Continue reading Freethinking

My love is not corrupt, no matter what I have been taught.  Fearing my love will be seen as corrupt keeps me from the power of love in my life. Love is a powerful force in peoples lives.   When the dancers in “A Chorus Line” look back on what they did for love, they remember … Continue reading Not Corrupt

Amy Bloom, in Normal: Transsexual CEOs, Crossdressing Cops, and Hermaphrodites with Attitude, lays out her case against crossdressers.  She finds them immersed in the erotic in a way that makes her queasy when they are about in open society.   That Eros may be fine in private, but in the wider world, it seems a bit … Continue reading Sensation Or Success?

In management, there are two basic ways of creating structure in a business. The first is imposing structure; creating a system that you have invented and then training the people to play their roles in that system. This can easily be seen in an assembly line. In that structure, people are just mostly just playing … Continue reading Imposed or Organic?

I just woke from a dream of a different gender conference, held in a combination of a mansion and a mall, where a group of smart people got together to talk and indulge, in a way that was anarchic and hedonistic. People were flowing, tables were full of offered food, and the conversation went on … Continue reading Raw Life

Let’s face it: trans is about desire.  It is about knowing what we want and getting it.  Call it passion or bliss or Eros or desire, it’s all about getting what lifts our heart. Of course, those are the two hard parts.  First, how do we know what we want?  Do we just want to … Continue reading Right Desire

A police officer is shot, the bullet dances in her body and ends with a complete severing of the spinal cord, leaving her parapalegic.   She just wants to be normal again. The team from Extreme Makeover: Home Edition come in and offer her the best of everything, from a recovery room with the workout machines, … Continue reading Anything Is Possible?

To a correspondent who is beginning to put together an inclusive women’s gathering: = = = = = = = = = = = = = = =   Your note made me think about what I might say to a diverse gathering of women.  I was at the first “Full Circle Of Women” and have watched … Continue reading Conscious Womanhood

When I look back on my “years of longing,” what hits me most strongly is how dillegently I worked at staying stupid. Of course, that’s what longing does.  It gives us tunnel vision, and tells us that if we focus more tightly, if we become even more blind, things will get better.  Longing is the … Continue reading Staying Stupid