Where are the wins? Where do you find the glints that keep hope and optimism alive? The front door has been broken since the morning of my birthday. That means I use the garage door. In this weather, that means cold comes in and everything in there has frozen, down to the cans of beans, … Continue reading Where Are The Wins?
You have taken so many hits, I told TBB the other day, and have gotten up again after them to continue the good fight. She just keeps trying to do the work and that work has served her well, especially with her family. Even after incredible attempts of others to drive a wedge between her … Continue reading Battered and Tattered
“Congratulations!” I told the cashier in the dollar store. “Why are you congratulating me?” she asked. “You just told me that you were doing pretty well,” I said. “That’s a lot better than you could be doing! Congratulations!” “I’ve never had anyone congratulate me for doing pretty well before,” she replied, “but yes, it is … Continue reading Celebrant
In my family, struggling was the norm. Discipline was required. Enjoyment was not really approved. While I worked hard to give my parents “one more good day,” their enjoyment was always bounded by their Aspergers. My sister recently sent me a video of goats balancing on a sheet steel arch. Her note was heartbreaking. “Ahh, … Continue reading Enjoy Yourself
10: THINK 20: GOTO 10 This is the core routine for all overthinkers. We start to analyze the situation, but somehow, the conditionals, the breakpoints that should get us out of the loop just don’t kick in, so we sit and spin ourselves into tail chasing spirals of our own fear and assumptions. My trick … Continue reading Breaking The Loop
“It sounds like deep and overwhelming grief,” Performance Guy said after reading my last few blog posts. He isn’t wrong; today is a year since my mother died and a year and a month since my father died. My sister and I have a different way to explain it. “So much loss,” we say to … Continue reading Shimmering Facets
“He doesn’t abuse drugs and he doesn’t abuse alcohol,” said the detective. “This is his high. This and trying to beat the police.” I just read that passage about a man who stole antique silver in the New York Times. Does everyone have a high? Not necessarily something illicit or illegal, but something that gets … Continue reading What’s Your High?
Oprah replayed her show about death on 10 June 2008. The one Randy Pausch was on, doing the condensed version of his “last lecture.” Of course, there was no note about what date the show was first aired on (19 Nov 2007), and no sense of how Mr Pausch’s life has changed since then, and … Continue reading Cutting