wondering what I would say to a group of women at a self-help weekend...
I have a question for you.
Do you ever hear a voice, somewhere deep inside you, that whispers you are much, much more than what your friends, your family and the rest of the world sees you as being?
Does it remind you that you have powerful things to share which you tend to keep hidden? Underneath all that playing nice, that playing along, that taking care of others, there is some real insight, wisdom and magic you keep locked away and hidden?
Does that voice tell you that you aren’t just your mother’s daughter, your children’s mother, your bosses worker, but that underneath you are something more energetic, more spiritual and more transcendent?
Can you remember that you are not your body or your history, rather you are a powerful force in a human vessel with something to share, something that connects and binds you to the universe?
Do you ever hear that inner voice reminding you that you are not as small as you have been told that you have to be to fit in? Does it whisper to you, call to you, remind you of the cosmic power inside?
I think most of us here have heard that voice. We are seekers, here, looking for ways to find our own voice, come into our own power, moving beyond the expectations pressed on us to reveal that we are more; more beautiful, more powerful, more magical, more transcendent.
Here’s a little secret that I share sometimes with friends: I heard that voice inside me.
I heard a voice which told me I wasn’t defined by my body or constrained by the expectations other people placed onto it. From a very, very early age, I knew that the spirit inside me was much more potent than the vessel that carried it.
I tried to keep that truth hidden, to play along, to fit in. I was told that was the only way I could get what I needed in the world.
What I needed, though, was to blossom, to come into the sunshine.
It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before…
to test your limits… to break through barriers.
And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
— Anaïs Nin
My journey involved walking through barriers most people are taught are firm and fixed, the wall between men and women. Going through that wall I found it to be merely an artifact of how we are taught to think in boundaries rather than in possibilities.
Crossing those boundaries requires moving beyond the fear that keeps us small, moving towards the love that opens the breadth and scope of our awesome continuous common humanity.
I am here to tell you one thing: that voice inside you that tells you that you are more than the little person others expect you to be is true. You are a beautiful child of the creator and that means you have the sparkle of the universe inside you.
Yours is not to seek for love, happiness, enlightenment or power. Yours is to seek for the barriers you hold to embracing all that is already inside you.
Today we are going to talk about ways to stop resisting the calling you hear, ways to stop blocking the possibilities inside you and instead embrace the jagged, awesome, human essence you already own.
I know change. I have done the work of change. I have created a map of the pitfalls I had to go through to own change.
Let’s start making a map of where you find pitfalls to change, where you are frightened and blocked, and then, together, we can share solutions and encouragement to help you claim your own path to all that you can be.
I believe in your potential, in your magic, in the voice that calls you to more. And because you are here, I believe that you are ready to take a step towards claiming more of that inner truth in the wider world, ready to stop resisting your own grace.
This claiming isn’t easy or simple, I know that. You have a lifetime of training in how to resist those big, glowing parts of you.
But owning your own heart is possible, I am here to tell you. You can move beyond your past, transcend your stories, throw off the limiting expectations and reveal the power and beauty which has always been inside of you.
Your wounds can become badges of healing, scars which help you offer others empathy and compassion, marks of the wisdom you earned with your own life force.
I know this is true. I know that these possibilities exist for you if you are willing to do the work to clear out your old assumptions and claim what has always been waiting for you inside your big, beautiful, loving heart.
That voice you hear, the one telling you that you are more than your body, more than your history, more than the expectations placed on you, that voice has truth in it.
Come with me and lets start the work to claim that magic.