Head Up, Shoulders Back, Tits High

People read other people without thinking.    We don’t stop to assess and consider the body language of another person, we just read it right out.

One of the first things we read is confidence, assurance, poise.  And we don’t just read it in others; we read it in ourselves.   Girls went to finishing school to learn deportment, not just so they would have the skills to fit into society, but so they would have the confidence to mix in society, to hold themselves with a strong sense of self worth, to trust in their own value.

Which comes first, the pride to carry yourself with grace, or the experience of having others respond to your carriage in a positive way?  It’s a performance and feedback loop that is self reinforcing; the affirmation you get when you present yourself with strength gives you the confidence to assert your own power in the world.

I have been coming from the beat down for a long time now.  And, in many ways, I want people to know what kind of beating I have taken.  It’s real, palpable, true.

But being beat down doesn’t let me show off what I can offer, doesn’t let me walk with pride and strength in the world.   It doesn’t get me what I need.

Head Up, Shoulders Back, Tits High.   I tried it yesterday, and I felt different.  The cashier even wanted to question if I deserved the senior discount when I did it.

Do I choose to come from strength, confidence and pride, or to show the effects of how life has beaten me down?

Head Up, Shoulders Back, Tits High.  It’s gotta be the choice.

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