The right answer is almost always a pain in the ass. That’s why we so often ignore it when it is staring us in the face, when it is glaringly obvious to everyone.
The wrong answer is easy. It’s the answer that is in favor of the status quo, the answer that is the most comfortable.
The right answer, though, is almost always the answer for change. And that’s hard.
Now, answers aren’t right just because they are change answers. Change for the heck of it isn’t always right, because often times the wrong answer is trying to change what is challenging us, tempting us to turn away from real challenge to novelty and diddling.
Most times, what we need to change is our attitude, our approach, our mindset. A miracle, says ACIM, is when we change the way we see things to embrace the miracles that already exist. A miracle is a moment for learning, for turning more towards the sacred, be that engaging conflict or letting go of our own expectations and desire.
Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn’t go away, said Phillip K. Dick. Right answers are like that. They don’t go away after you dismiss them, rather they just keep coming around again. That’s why trying to escape a clearly right answer is usually a futile gesture.
We see the signs, the portents, coming up 53d street, as they say. But we ignore them, bury them, because to acknowledge them would be to acknowledge the requirement for change, which just seems too hard at this point in our lives.
There are right answers, and the right ones keep coming back. Keep demanding we do the hard work of letting go of the comfortable, whatever that is, and risk the new.
The right answer is almost always a pain in the ass.
But the only way to get rid of that pain is to acknowledge it, work with it, move on and change.