Therapist ‘Tude

There is a syndrome among therapists that I find a bit challenging.  Some therapists — and I do mean some — really think that because they are the professional, they are always the smartest person in the room.

I had that happen today at the conference.  A therapist wanted to hell me how things are, and I offered a smart and thoughtful counterpoint.  In business, when you find someone smart in the room, the best choice is always to leverage them, to see what you can get from them.   But this MSW?  No, she needed to challenge me at every turn. She needed to be the smartest person in the room, the one with the answers.

It’s amazing how abject those who want to help transpeople see us. I had one crossdresser wife in a doubleknit turquoise walk up to me and review my wig.  In her view, the colour works with my skin tone and the shape is acceptable.  I just said “It’s amazing what they can do with plastic nowadays,” but I found the whole thing incredibly rude.

I gave the doctor who was interested copies of some speeches yesterday.   The “Fear Of Fabulous,”  IFGE 1995 and SCC 1995.   Today I fell off her radar, as she attended to the more abject people than I.

To be powerful and trans at this conference is to be wrong, at least according to the professionals who are out to help us.

But one old acquaintance who noted the name on my badge is Cali and not Callan said “You are always changing aren’t you?”

Somehow, I just can’t think of any other way.

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