It sounds scary

This is a challenging & provocative poetry piece on YouTube.

The desires all sound so reasonable & understandable when she says them, but when Will says them, they can disturb us.

I know they are disturbing because of the heinous comments, where anti-intellectualism and anti-rationalism fuse in a particularly insidious way.  The level of discourse is that of teens trying to pack out at a mall food court.

It’s a heterosexist society, where we feel dividing people by birth sex isn’t just normal, it’s natural.  Why should we value the contents of their heart over the shape of their body?  Isn’t biology destiny?

Will asks if a non-normative body is destiny for him in any case.

To many it sounds scary, this crossing expectations.  Amazing how this plays out in gender land, with people breaking gender norms often lashing out at others who break the norms in ways that push buttons.

I suspect that what scares them is the contents of their own heart, the one that separates them from their homies at the mall.

Those hearts, after all, which drive our body and mind, are where our power is, the beating reminder of the magic of our creator.


“I put that dryer in by myself,”
my father tells me
somehow I am not worthy as a man
if I can’t rebuild his cobbled maze
now hidden behind cabinets.

“Good,” I want to say.
“Now shop for and make dinner every night for a week,”
knowing he would fail the task
he takes for granted from me.

The expectation that
if we can do what is hard for someone else to do
we should be able to do what is easy them to do
(or here, was easy for them to do)

that we should be able to
think like them
act like them
be like them
what they consider normative

is a weight that crushes
unique hearts
of boys
or those presumed to be boys.